A Happy Life in an Open Relationship by Susan Wenzel

A Happy Life in an Open Relationship:

The Essential Guide to a Healthy and Fulfilling Nonmonogamous Love Life

by Susan Wenzel

Discover the secrets to successful open relationships. A Happy Life in an Open Relationship is a handbook to healthy nonmonogamous relationships.

For anyone curious about open relationships, here is a valuable handbook from an expert in love, sex, and communication. Relationship therapist Susan Wenzel—who is in an open marriage herself—delivers skillful advice on how to navigate the complex emotional landscape of multi-partner relationships, from polyamory to swinging.

• Filled with of compelling personal stories, anecdotes from clients, and practical exercises
• A guide to cultivating harmonious and fulfilling open relationships
• Author Susan Wenzel is a sex and relationship therapist with years of experience counseling patients on issues related to monogamy, intimacy, and trust.

A Happy Life in an Open Relationship will help you develop your trust and communication skills, explore sexuality and desire, build your confidence and self-worth, set healthy boundaries, overcome jealousy, and so much more.

People interested in making changes in their relationships will appreciate the positive tone, helpful advice, and expert wisdom from an accomplished relationship therapist who has gone through the experience herself.

• A great gift for anyone interested in testing the boundaries of monogamy and exploring the world of polyamory
• An accessible and inviting guide for couples to build an open relationship that is strong and lasting
• Perfect for fans of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence and The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel, The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family by Dan Savage, and Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships by Christopher Ryan

Taken from book blurb

Release Date: March 10, 2020.

Length: 186 pages.

Series: Stand alone.

Genre: Non-Fiction. Relationships.

Read as: an eBook.

Sourced: NetGalley.

My Thoughts

A Happy Life in an Open Relationship steps away from other books about open relationship and non-monogamy as it is a very personal book. I say personal not just because of the subject matter but because the author herself, Susan Wenzel, offers a lot of anecdotal examples taken from her own life and those from her professional life as a relationship therapist.

The book itself provides a range of information not only on open relationships but other non-monogamous relationships types. Most sections of the book offer guides and exercises to help readers better understand and work through issues. A large part of the book looks at introducing the concept of non-monogamy to relationships – how you approach, deal with, and work through conversations and issues, while the rest works through other aspects of these relationships.

However, at times the book can read more like a biography than a guide. At some points I found that I was interested in subjects and how to handle these better myself but was treated to page after page of personal reflections instead of constrictive advice on how to actively tackle these issues. As someone who has struggled with jealousy issues, I was disappointed to not be given any actual advice other than to work towards positive responses to negative compulsions.

Despite this small issue, the book shines in it’s positive portrayals. There are no judgements made in this book which is really empowering to read. The book is not authored from a theoretical standpoint, the author is in an open relationship herself, which really makes not just the advice but the issues faced so much more real.


If you are looking at opening up your relationship, A Happy Life in an Open Relationship is a great resource for all of the things you need to consider. Wenzel offers a number of considerations that can often be not thought about, so if you are thinking about branching out in your relationship, this book is an excellent idea.

For those already in an open relationship, A Happy Life in an Open Relationship is a wonderful resource that can help preemptively tackle issues or as a guide to handle the more tricky conversations. I say wonderful as there is no judgement in the writing – it is open and honest and is purely there to help guide people who may hit some bumps in the road.

If you’re simply curious about open relationships and polyamory, then A Happy Life in an Open Relationship is also a great book. The number of personal anecdotes really personalise this subject that often can be overlooked or eye rolled.

Please note: I received a copy of A Happy Life in an Open Relationship from NetGalley.

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